Thoughts from a labour ward midwife... why you should never use a home doppler

Welcome to my Wednesday morning rant!

Home dopplers – why they are allowed to be sold to be general public makes me so angry!!! You don’t see ECG machines or ultrasound scanners on sale at your local pharmacy, so why this piece of medical equipment is for sale is beyond me!

What is a home doppler?

A home doppler is a small hand held device usually used by midwives and doctors to listen to your baby’s heartbeat.

Why is the sale of them to the general public a relatively new problem?

Whilst they used to cost £100s, they are now affordable.

What’s the problem with me using one to check by baby is ok?

There’s a reason midwives and doctors take years to train to use equipment such as this. Although you may think you’re finding your baby’s heartbeat easily..

·         You may be listening to your own heartbeat

·         You may be listening to your baby’s cord pulsation

·         You may be unaware that you are listening to an abnormal heartbeat

The problem is, people are now using these dopplers as a reason not to speak to their midwife or doctor about concerns they may have. For example, they may have a small bleed or they may be concerned about their baby’s movements, but they use the doppler for reassurance. This is a problem because

·         A heartbeat alone is NOT reassuring – you may have seen the ‘count the kicks’ campaign which explains that if you saw someone passed out on the street, you wouldn’t check their heartbeat then walk off and leave them.

·         As mentioned above, you may not be listening to the heartbeat or a normal heartbeat anyway

Well what if I just want to listen for fun, and I don’t have any concerns about myself or my baby?

Because you are untrained and may find it difficult to find the baby’s heartbeat, or find your own heartbeat and worry it’s the baby and it’s too slow. You will then inevitably panic, and use already strained NHS resources to be checked over unnecessarily.

BEING AWARE OF YOUR BABY’S MOVEMENTS IS THE BEST WAY TO KEEP YOUR BABY SAFE. PLEASE DON’T USE HOME DOPPLERS.

It's Okay

The cost of baby clothes and toys can be super expensive. But, you know what, it's okay to buy them second hand. Babies grow so quickly and move on from toys just as fast. I'm finding, that like weddings, as soon as it 'baby' related the price just JUMPS up!! It's like they know that you will need to buy it, so they go crazy on the price!

At first I was worried that I was being cheap, but I quickly realised that I was just being practical. There's very little that a hot clothes was and an antibacterial wipe can't solve.

Good places to look are your local selling sites on Facebook, both baby and non baby related, NCT nearly new sales, EBay and Gumtree. 

I also find Super markets are a great place to get the basics, such as baby grows and vests. Leaving the budget to invest in the everyday wears. 

Recently, on my local selling site I got a V-tech baby walker for £3!? You would not even know that it was second hand.

So, shop around, buying second hand doesn't make us any less great! 

 

It's Okay

It's okay to use Hypnobirthing throughout your pregnancy and birth. Sometimes there's still a stigma attached to Hypnobirthing, that it's a bit 'out there', but it's just about focusing on moving from possible anxiety about birth to developing a calm confidence. Evidence shows that this increases your chance of a natural birth.

I don't know about you, but I find that people love telling their birth horror stories. It's almost becomes like a game of Top Trumps. Often, the people who don't have a horror story to share stay quiet. I am all for people telling their birth stories, but I think that we have to be careful about who we tell them to. Sharing bad experiences with an expectant mother or someone who may one day go on to have children isn't kind. It brings out fear and worry and when their time comes, this is recalled and induces a state of anxiety about birth.

A fearful state of mind in labour hinders the body's natural ability to birth. Where the mind goes, the body follows. So, if you are worried, your body tenses up with adrenaline, hindering your natural labour hormones (oxytocin) and natural pain refelief (endorphins). 

In Hypnobirthing, we use relaxation techniques and positive language to replace fear with positive truth about labour. We also share the facts about the body, labour and maternity services. By understanding how birth works we can reduce the fear of the unknown. Instead of anxiety, you can be sure in the truth that your body and baby know what they are doing. Hypnobirthing does not guarantee the 'perfect' birth, but it does enable you to have the best birth for yourself. 

It is also great for birth partners!

Book today at info@therealbirthguide.co.uk

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Products I Love

The Phil and Ted Escape baby carrier was worth every penny for us! 

As a family we went away to the Lake District at Easter. We got up early, made packed lunches and were out the door for a hike most days, only returning at about dinner time. As parents, we try to adopt the philosophy that where we go, Ez comes too. For this to work when climbing mountains, we needed something reliable and of good quality. The Phil and Ted baby carrier certainly met these criteria. It was comfortable for both baby and parent and Ez was happy in it; even when walks lasted over six hours! It allowed Ez to be carried safely across, up and down all types of terrain. It was comfortable enough that he napped in it easily. We now use it on the dog walks back at home; since he learned to crawl, he seems to find the pram dull!

Features of the baby carrier that made it all so easy: 

- It has good back support mechanisms, with a padded belt for hip and back

- Head and neck support for child

-Detachable bag

- Facility for a water pocket for the thirsty parent

-Breathable

- Sun and rain protection

- A stand which holds the carrier upright, so it can be managed by one person

I really do rate this carrier and I'm so glad we got it. From the picture, I think that Ez is too! 

 

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Thoughts from a labour ward midwife... inductions

Thoughts from a labour ward midwife… inductions

So, you need to be induced? Or you want to be induced? Either way, I’m sure you’ve got plenty of questions.

I want to be induced….. what are my options?

First of all, you need to chat to your midwife or obstetrician. Think about why you want to be induced. What you have to remember is induction comes with its own set of risks. Does the reason you want to be induced outweigh these risks? When you’re at the end of your pregnancy and maybe at the end of your tether with whatever it is that’s going on, it’s easy to say “yes”…. But your midwife or obstetrician might be able to help you in a safer way than by interfering with your pregnancy. It’s best to consider all the options.

I’m told I need to be induced, but I don’t want to be, what are my options?

The best thing is to discuss all the options with your midwife/obstetrician as ask the question, why? Why exactly is induction the best thing for me? What will happen if I decline? What are the risks to my baby? Also, importantly, is there any compromise? Can we wait longer? Can I be monitored more regularly instead? Remember, whatever the scenario, you always have a choice, you’re the boss!

So I’m being induced, what’s going to happen?

Everyone is different, and every hospital is different…. The best person to answer this is your midwife or obstetrician. But here is an idea…

1.       You arrive in hospital with your birthing partner(s), bags ready to go!

2.       The midwife checks you over, including the position of your baby, and puts the baby on the heart rate monitor to make sure all is well!

3.       If all is well, the midwife will perform a vaginal examination – they are trying to find out how ready your cervix is to go into labour. The cervix starts off as long and firm, and to go into labour it needs to become shorter, softer and start to dilate. Unless it has already done all of this work quietly without you noticing, the midwife will insert a prostaglandin tablet (types vary depending on the hospital) into the vagina. If this is your first baby often this stays in for 24 hours, and if it’s your second (or more) baby it often stays in for 6 hours. Either way, you’ll then be reassessed in the same way again after the prostaglandin has been given some time to work.

The key at this stage is to STAY PATIENT! Inductions can be SLOW!! Especially if your body isn’t ready to go into labour. Some people need up to 3 prostaglandin tablets (of varying types) and these can take days to administer, especially if you start contracting (which means they can’t give the next one) then you stop again.

4.       (Unless you have already gone into labour yourself at this point!) All of this is leading to the point where a midwife is finally able to break your waters! Usually the tablets are all administered on the antenatal ward, whereas this bit is often done when the labour ward have space for you! When the cervix is open enough, something that looks very much like a crochet hook is used to make a hole in the amniotic fluid sac. Many people worry that this bit is going to be painful, but more often than not it is nothing worse than the usual discomfort of a vaginal examination.

5.       (Unless you have already gone into labour yourself at this point!) Next step… the syntocinon drip! You are put on the baby heart rate monitor again, but this time it won’t be coming off! A cannula is put into your hand/arm and a drip is started very slowly into it. This is a hormone to make contractions start. The rate of this drip is then increased until you are having around 4 contractions every 10 minutes, lasting around 60 seconds each.

6.       Vaginal examinations usually then occur 4 hourly to ensure the cervix is dilating as it should. Once you get to 10cm, it’s time to have a baby!

 

That all sounds rather complicated and medicalised!

It is! That’s why if you don’t need to be induced, we really discourage it! However, if it needs to happen, and the benefits outweigh the risks, it can be the best option.

Is being induced more painful than natural labour?

Some people say it is, but everyone is different. In natural labour, the contractions tend to build up slowly, but in induced labour they can come on a lot quicker. You are more likely to want an epidural with an induced labour than with a natural labour. However, plenty of people that don’t want an epidural manage without.

Will I need a caesarean section?

The risks of needing a caesarean section are higher when labour is induced than when labour is allowed to come on naturally.

Can I still have a pool birth?

Your baby will need to be continuously monitored if you are being induced, so this is where a pool birth can be a little more complicated. However, many units now have ‘telemetry’ monitoring, which doesn’t require cables and can be used underwater. Ask your midwife if this is possible at your unit.

Why does my baby need to be continuously monitored?

The syntocinon drip (discussed earlier) can stress the baby, so we need to know if the baby is still happy! Continuous monitoring shouldn’t stop you from being upright and mobile though, ask your midwife for help!

 

For more information, including bespoke antenatal classes, hypnobirthing and postnatal support visit www.therealbirthguide.co.uk

It's Okay

It's okay to not find weaning your baby onto food the easiest thing, in fact sometimes in can be almost soul destroying!  

It's completely normal for some days baby to look at you with eyes of aqusation, like the food you have provided is poisonous. Then there are the other glorious days where they just inhale the food before you in even blink! Some babies never have food issues and are a food ninja, others, not so much! 

Try to remember that in their first year, meal times are just explorative fun. The more we keep it fun and easy, even when our patience is wearing, the easier it will be in the long run. Some top tips that help me day to day: 

Recongnise the phases. Currently, Ez is not enjoying spoon feeding, so he is feeding himself...which has taken some real imagination.  www.mylittlelunchbox and Deliciously Ella are really helpful!

If they give the 'no' que, don't push it. This will only make them associate meal times with stress.

Keep it fun with singing and eating with them.

Put a little of something new alongside a larger ratio amount of something you know they enjoy. For babies this reduces the possible worry of something new. 

Know that when they are teething they will most likely be really funny with food, refusing what they would normally love and eating smaller amounts. When they are teething their sensitivity to taste and textures is heightened, plus their gums are so tender! Would you eat with tooth ache!?

I don't offer another option if he doesn't eat, I just offer him initial variety.  

If he doesn't eat his savoury, I don't with hold the sweet. All this does is make the savoury the chore and the sweet the treat in a babies mind! 

On average, it takes a baby 15 times of trying something before they will eat it properly. 

This is just a phase, keep it positive! See it as a game and enjoy! You're not doing it wrong.

It's Okay

I saw this excellent Pinterest pin the other day. It was a picture of Katniss from The Hunger Games doing a salute pose, with the added slogan of 'when I see a Mother whose child is having a tantrum in public'. I love this idea of a community supporting each other in those trickier moments, instead of judging. 

You know what, it's Okay if your baby cries in public, don't feel the pressure that babies "should be seen and not heard". Instead, take your time to see what baby is saying. It's okay if your toddler has a full-on melt down for some unexplainable reason; let them and take it from there. Don't feel the pressure that you must be parenting wrong if your child has a tantrum, often it's just part of them growing up. In fact, once upon a time, the people who give us those judging stares were most likely a baby or a toddler crying or having a tantrum  themselves! 

Let people think what they think, we are parenting and it's just messy at times. This doesn't mean that we are getting it wrong. 

Products I Love

He is on the move! Wow, I was not ready for this, but loving it! It is so fun seeing where he wants to go and choose which toys he wants to play with.

Below are products that I have got straight away. Basically, I am just trying to keep him out of harms way, whilst he is on mini adventures! 

Wall plug covers- he went straight for these, so needed to get them covered up asap. 

Foam tube- to cover the fire hearth edge. Might sound over kill, but in our living room it's a must! 

Blind Cords- hooked up and out of the way. There are a scary number of blind cord related accidents each year. 

Hot drinks out of reach. 

 Furniture- think about the furniture. What is stable if he were to pull himself up on it? Get that Ikea furniture fixed to the wall! 

Play Pen- this is somewhere that I can put him and put the kettle on, go for a wee etc and know that he is safe.  I've got mine on eBay, you really don't have to spend a fortune. 

Stair Gates- they move faster than you think, so get ready! 

Door latches- for the kitchen doors. 

Cleaning Products- stored securely or out of reach. Remember the bleach behind the toilet!  

Along with the safety stuff I have quickly got a National Trust Memebership and a local soft play membership. These are two places where I can let him safely explore and crawl his energy out!

Get ready, because once they go, they go!  

It's Okay

Are you finding yourself making comparing your baby with others? Are you worrying if something is wrong? Many mums do. Friends and relatives will always ask if they are doing 'X' yet. 

It's okay for children to develop at different rates in different areas. Some get the babbling down to a fine art of baby conversation first and then figure out the moving skills after, or vice versa. Often it can be a little view into their character as to what they master first!

I have listed out below what is considered to be the normal age ranges for babies to meet each new skill. Often, seeing the normal age ranges can be reassuring to mums.  

Sitting without support: 6-9 months.

Crawling: 9-13 months.

Walking: 13-18 months.

Babbling: by 10 months. A couple of single words by a year.

Sometimes it can be useful to take a step back and look at your baby's environment and ask some questions. Are there opportunities here for them to develop their next skill? Is the dummy in a little too much? Could I move the coffee table? Do I need to let him/her explore more independently under supervision? Am I reading them stories? Are you taking them to local sing and song groups or soft play areas? These are just some suggestions. Often we are already doing these things and your baby just needs their own time to figure it all out! The trick is to not compare your baby to others; we all have our own way of doing things.

If you have any worries of concerns have a chat with your Health Visitor or GP.

Products I Love

Products that I love for the first time mum in her first trimester. It isn't a terribly long list, but the items are of good quality and should last you as long as you need them to.

Travel sickness bands can be a life saver for those early weeks/months of nausea. Usually you can just pick them up at your local Super Store. 

A good, readable, engaging book to give you the heads up about pregnancy and birth. I completely recommend 'How to Grow a Baby and Push it out'. Written by Clemmie Hooper, an experienced Mother and Midwife.

Don't be tempted to skimp on the pregnancy pillow, I did and I regretted it. Next time, I'm going all out for comfort to help me sleep better on my side. 

Top quality pregnancy leggings, again I skimped in these and regretted it. Next time I'm going for JoJo Maman Bebe pregnancy leggings for both comfort and quality.

Bump bands. These are a great invention! For those early months when you don't quite need maternity trousers yet, but long for comfort! You can just wear them with your normal trousers, with the button undone. Ideal! Especially is you are suffering with morning sickness, you will want to avoid tight trousers on your bump. 

A lovely water bottle. Sounds silly, but it gets you drinking plenty of fluid. Water really is your friend in terms of energy and helping fight the nausea. 

Let me know any of your favourite maternity products... 

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Summer Infant Maternity Pillow. Available at Kiddicare and JoJo Maman Bebe. Varying prices according to retailer. 

 

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A great Matrnity Book

 

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Bumps bands, pack for three from JoJo Maman Bebe for £15. 

 http://www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/multi-use-belly-band-a9117.html

It's Okay

It's okay to go away with your friends whenever you are ready! 

Going away for a day, a night or a weekend can be the best tonic. Some can do it sooner than others, others need more time. There is no right or wrong time, more often than not you come back more energised and ready to take on the day to day of being a Mum.

Somes parents are made to feel guilty for having time away and the others are made to feel silly that they don't feel able to have time away from their baby yet. When in fact, only the parents themselves know what they and their baby are ready for.

For me, I had to slowly build myself up to having time away from our baby. First we just went for a drink at the pub only 6 doors down, then we went out for dinner 10 minutes down the road, then we went to the cinema half an hour away and so on and so on. Eventually, I went for a day away and my husband looked after Ezra, then I had a night away with the girls. At the minute that is the maximum I can do without wanting to be back with him. The next stage is for my husband and I to be away for a night and Ezra to be with a trusted family member, although I'm not sure we are brave enough yet!

Actually, the times I have had some Mum time off, it's been really nice to come back and see how happy and comfortable Ezra has been.

Ultimatey, only you know when and how to have a break and that's okay. 

It's Okay

It's okay to go to baby groups as much or as little as you like! It's also okay to turn up late rather than not go. 

Baby groups, whether you love, hate or are ambivilent about them, are something that will be on offer to you aplenty!  

I sit happily on the fence about baby groups. Some days Ezra and I are up for them, other times we would rather stay at home and hang out with each other. There are other days when I need to get on with some errands and jobs. Often, on the days I give the groups a miss, I have to ignore the little guilt fairy and instead remember that Ezra is just fine not going to a group. 

I used to find some of the groups a bit cliquey. However, I soon just decided that it was okay to just go up and introduce myself to people, as often they are just eager to introduce themselves.  

Eventually, we found our favourite groups and stuck with them. Messy Play is a huge favourite and since going Ezra's eating skills have come on leaps and bounds. Our other favourite is Water Babies. I swear if he could, he would run into the pool when he sees it; he gets that excited!  Both groups have been great at supporting developmental skills, including opportunities to play with other babies. 

Find what works for you and what you both enjoy and go with it. There really is no right or wrong way.

Products I Love

Always loosing one of  baby's shoes, are they kicking them off or do shoes just disappear infront of your very eyes?! After trying many many shoes I've found the solution!

Dotty Fish knows how to make a baby shoe. 100% the best and competitively priced. Across the top of the bootie is an ingenious piece of elastic that actually keeps the shoe on! They have lovely soft  linings, so really comfortable for baby. My son has lived in them throughout the autumn and winter, remaining nice and snug!

These have been my go to present for other babies and the parents always come back to me raving about them, asking where they are from and saying that they are the only pair of booties that stay on! When babies are not all that mobile don't buy lots of foot wear options, just by one or two that work well, because they are usually on just for going inbetween places and then they are off to play!  

Dotty Fish have lots of cute designs, but we went for the suede slippers, which have been great. I'm planning on getting a soft leather pair from Dotty Fish for the spring. 

www.dottyfish.com

 

Suede Slippers.  image taken from Dotty Fish

Suede Slippers. 

image taken from Dotty Fish

Enjoy! 

Thoughts from a labour ward midwife.... birth plans

Thoughts from a labour ward midwife…. Birth Plans

So your midwife has suggested you make a birth plan…. What are you thinking? People vary so much…. My clients are so different! Anything from “I’ll go with the flow” and “I’ll do whatever you think” to a laminated 10 page booklet of instructions!

So which way to go?

My advice is somewhere in the middle…. Being chilled out is great, but the likelihood is that you will never have met the midwife who cares for you in labour. As a midwife, it’s great to know some of your preferences or any fears you have, so we can help support you. By the time we meet you, you might be too focused on your contractions to convey exactly what you want.

Equally you also don’t always want you birth plan to be too complicated and specific…. Although it’s great to know what you want, labour sometimes brings some surprises, and what you thought you wanted may change. Being open with your midwife and listening to their suggestions can really help.

Things I suggest you include…

·         Who you want there – we’re great at telling those “surprise” visiting relatives a few white lies to keep them out if you don’t want them there!

·         What kind of pain relief you plan on having – but as always, keep an open mind. This can include TENs machines, water, Entonox (aka gas&air), pethidine, epidurals, massage, hypnobirthing etc.

·         How you feel about baby having the recommended vitamin K – injection or oral or none at all?

·         What your hopes and fears are for the birth? Is there anything you really do or don’t want and why? This will help your midwife to understand where she/he can help

·         How do you feel about student(s) being present? Is one fine? Or you would rather not have any? Sometimes students come into the room alongside the midwife. Asking them to refer to your birth plan can be a less awkward way of conveying that you would prefer them not to be there. Then again, don’t forget students can be amazing, and it can mean you always have someone in the room with you whilst the midwife pops in and out to get things!

·         When your baby is born, what do you want to happen? Skin-to skin? Baby dried first? Dad to cut the cord? The two of you to see what sex the baby is together?

·         How would you like to feed your baby? Breast or bottle?

·         How would you like to deliver your placenta? Do you want the injection to deliver it? Do you want to do it yourself without drugs? It’s good to know what you’d prefer, but again, being open to suggestions from your midwife is always a good idea.

·         Anything out of the ordinary! Is there anything else we need to know?

What I don’t think you need to include…

·         Forceps or ventouse assisted deliveries… what I keep seeing more and more these days is a preference for what type of instrument used in the event of an assisted delivery being required…. The fact is that the doctor needs to deliver the baby with the appropriate instrument. They will never deliver with one over the other if it is not appropriate or safe, and at that moment, only one of the instrument types will be appropriate and safe. They will discuss this with you at the time, and of course it is always your choice to accept or decline, but there is not an option to have your baby delivered by an unsafe choice of instrument.

·         Saying “only if medically required”…. More and more birth plans are stating things such as “ I will only have a c-section if medically required”… the fact is that this is always the case. We (midwives and obstetricians) would never intervene unless medically required and never without your permission.

·         Positions for birth…. Many websites say you should include this, and you’re welcome to state your preferences! However most women have no idea what positions they prefer until they are having contractions and we will always help you to do whatever is best for you at the time.

For more information and antenatal teaching please see our antenatal courses section or email info@therealbirthguide.co.uk

 

It's Okay

It's okay to take time for yourself. In fact, I think that it should be a rule. This doesn't mean that you don't enjoy your time with your baby. There are just simply moments when you need to speak to another adult; not think about nappies or about managing naps and meal times. 

If you can, go out; even just for an hour. Leave your baby with Dad or another person you feel comfortable with. Get a coffee, go for a walk, a run, window shopping...whatever works for you. It can be surprisingly difficult to do it for some people. Some have to start by going for a small amount of time and build up, others feel really fine with it. But I guarantee that you will come back a better mum for your little one as a result.

Some weeks though, it's just not going to happen. Either your partner is working mad hours and the people you feel comfortable with looking after your little one aren't available, or your baby just needs you around. In those times, taking time for yourself in the house just has to do. For instance, when your baby is napping or has gone to bed, ignore the house chores and just sit down or even take a nap!? In those early days, achieving this can be difficult because baby, quite rightly, needs most minutes of the day! At those times I found that taking time for myself had to be those moments when I did the simple things, like putting perfume on, or something like that, and recognising that that moment was for me. 

This is not meant to sound selfish and there are times when you might just have to see it through and know that there's some time for you coming up. But after years in the job and now having been a mum, I know that taking care of yourself is actually taking care of your baby too. 

Products I Love

I love my changing bag. Even before I was pregnant with Ezra I knew which changing bag I wanted, I'd seen so many of my clients them. They are the changing bag for the uber (maybe a bit too much) organised. They have one outside section, one zip section and then two pods, one for changing bits and bobs, and then one that is a cool bag for feeding stuff. The pods in particular make it really easy to use, instead of having to take a big bag and a little wriggly baby to the changing facilities, you can just take one of the small pods. We also invested in the ruck sack model, which you can adapt the strap to go over the shoulder or on the back, such a handy feature!

Although I do love our changing bag, I have my dream version (if money was no option) of most products! Tiba and Marl do the most fantastic changing bag ruck sack . It has great features and looks brilliant. I'm thinking of getting a rucksack now, as we are requiring the changing bag less as Ez is getting older, but a girl can dream hey?!

 

Pacapod Oban Convertible 

Pacapod Oban Convertible 

Ruck Sack Setting

Ruck Sack Setting

Pods and changing mat

Pods and changing mat

Tiba and Marl Elwood

Tiba and Marl Elwood

As hard as it is, think practical, not pretty. The most important elements are, a good spacious section, a cool bag, a section for changing stuff and an included fold away changing mat. Enjoy and shop around!

It's okay

It's okay to want to be prepared for both breast and bottle feeding. I was astounded when a friend was denied information and education about formula feeding in her pregnancy. This is not okay. At the Real Birth Guide, we believe in equipping parents-to-be with the skills they need for whichever way their journey takes them or the informed feeding choice they make.

Don't get me wrong, the evidence is very clear that breastfeeding has many  benefits over formula feeding for both mother and baby.  I'm not disputing that in any way. When breastfeeding works for both mum and baby it is great, but it's important to recognise that this is not everyone's story, despite a lot of effort and commitment. It is so important not to put pressure and stigma on mums-to-be, that can then leave many feeling like they have failed if it doesn't work out. A woman's feeding choice, made for whatever reason, does not define the quality of a mother.

I have also found that many antenatal education providers discuss a lot of theory regarding feeding. I know that many people don't find this very helpful, which is why at The Real Birth Guide we use practical demonstrations and videos to equip parents with skills for: breast expression, breast feeding, formula feed preparation, formula feeding and feeding equipment sterilisation. 

At the Real Birth Guide we want to help mums in such a away that they feel comfortable, informed and equipped about the feeding choices they make. 

Products I Love

Dr Brown bottles were like our miniature heroes in those early months! 

Ez had colic for a bit and it was these bottles, along with some other strategies, which helped ease this and make him more comfortable. I know that they don't work for everyone, but now having had a colicky baby, I get the need to try something that might help! Dr Brown bottles helped to reduce wind-like symptoms through an internal vent system that reduced the air passing from the bottle to Ez. 

Colic is defined as a baby who cries and cries and cries most evenings with signs of trapped wind. Ez would clench his fists, bring his knees up to his chest and arch his back due to the wind being stuck in his tummy. We could have almost set our clocks by it starting each evening. Other things that helped were baby massage, baths, a baby carrier, dummy, tagging in and out with the hubby, going for walks, anti colic drops and oddly...singing Christmas carols?! Hey, you find what works for your baby and you go with it right?!

Colic, it can be really tough, so ask for help from friends, families, health professionals. Don't try and manage it alone. Know that ultimately, it will pass and become a distant memory. 

 

Dr Brown Bottles

Image taken from Dr Browns website. 

Image taken from Dr Browns website. 

It's Okay

Visitors

It's okay to say not yet/ that's not the best time of day/ sorry we are going to have to cancel, or just no to visitors. Visitors in the those early days of having baby can be a bit of a love hate thing. There are moments where you can't wait for people to meet baby. There are moments where you, baby and partner just want to hide away/ figure out feeding or just get some kip whilst baby is sleeping. Both of these are okay. What's important is recognising what is best for your new little family and going with that.

When visitors do come it's also okay if they are the ones who make the tea, bring food, you are in your night clothes and the house is a mess. The people coming to see you in those early days are the people who should be wanting to look after you all.

You do not need to be the hosts with most!